Wife and i haven’t had sex in a while. I think the biggest hurtle is I wanna try different things and she is fine with just laying there “Boring sex”. Recently she was nude about to get in shower and I started to whip her ass with my belt. With every smack my cock got harder but after a few licks she couldn’t take it anymore and I had to stop. We r in a rut, and trying to get out of it were just spinning our tires in the mud. Any thoughts or advice?

1) Have a heart to heart discussion with her about what you need and want. 

2) Ask her what she needs and wants and make sure you listen. 

3) Make a decision together about what to do about it. 

4) Couples therapy if you can seem to get anywhere. 

This is a very common issue, one that is rooted in the business and stress of lives together after so long. It’s hard to infuse new life into a relationships, but I encourage you to make the effort. You’ve put so much in so far. Why would you give up now?

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